Pinterest boards don't count as a plan.
You know that feeling where you kind of know what you want - like, the shape of it is there - but you can't figure out how to get it?
So you just... avoid it.
You pop it on the back burner and hope that, by some miracle, it delivers itself.
Except, it never does. And so you carry it around instead.
This vague, heavy sense of "something needs to shift" that sits in the background of every week.
You think about it in the shower. You half-journal about it. You mention it vaguely to a friend over wine and they say "you should do something about that" and you say "yeah totally" and then you both order another drink.
And then another month passes and you're still in the same spot.
I ran a clarity hit* recently with someone who was in this exact scenario.
She's a big ideas person. Gorgeous vision and knows what she wants. But she'd never sat down and actually thought through the how. That bit felt too overwhelming.
After three hours together, she had a plan. A real one. Not a Pinterest board labelled "future me" but actual practical steps she could start acting on immediately.
But that's not the bit that surprised her.
The bit that surprised her was realising why she'd been playing small.
She realised that she had spent a lot of her life working with people who didn't make her feel safe. And when she didn't feel safe, she played small.
It was only in feeling safe that she could fully be herself - the creative, expansive, bold version. The one that did the best work. The one she actually likes being.
She hadn't connected those dots until we got to the end of the session.
I want to share what she said afterwards, because she described what my coaching work is all about better than I ever could:
"Before the session, I knew what I wanted, but I didn't know how to get there. Clarity Hit gave me the how. What I loved most is that Nat doesn't preach to you, she doesn't tell you what to do, and she doesn't assume to know you. She knows that you know yourself better than anyone. Whatever it is you're facing, whether you have an idea of how you want to become unstuck or you have no idea at all, Nat's really good at helping you figure out what you need and how to get it."
I also want to be honest about something she flagged, because I think it matters.
She also said the beginning felt a bit vulnerable. A bit awkward. She's someone I know personally, and the shift from our usual two-way conversations to "this is just about you" felt unfamiliar.
Halfway through, I noticed that she was performing being a good coaching client rather than actually being in it. So I named it. Because that's what I do. I notice the thing that might be getting in the way and then I ruin everyone's comfortable avoidance of it. It's a gift.
So we talked about it the potential awkwardness. And then something opened up. Something eased and softened, and we got much more from the session than if we'd skirted over it.
I share this because I want to be real with you that coaching is rarely a perfectly smooth, comfortable experience. Sometimes the most important bits are the awkward bits. The bits where you stop performing and start being honest.
That's where the real transformative stuff lives. Sorry, I don't make the rules.
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*A clarity hit is a 3-hour, virtual 1:1 workshop for anyone who's been sitting with a "something needs to change" feeling for too long and is ready to actually do something about it.
In 3 hours, we'll:
Map where you actually are vs where you want to be
Name the beliefs that have been keeping you stuck (and test whether they're even yours)
Build a clear, actionable 90-day plan you can start immediately
You also get a pre-session questionnaire so we skip the small talk and get straight to the good stuff, plus a check-in 30 days later to make sure things are landing.
Think of it as the thing you'd spend the next 6 months slowly figuring out on your own, sorted in one afternoon. With someone who's really good at untangling things.
